So things are about to get real yall. I mean pure honestly, we've become best friends after 3 glasses of wine real. First off I think I should start by saying I'm not perfect. I've gotten mad, I've begged my daughter to do things with the promise of a cookie after and I've caved. But here's the thing no one really talks about it. I mean sure you hear everyone's victories but how often do we hear about our failures or "not so great" parenting moments. So I'm here to drop some serious honestly in your laps and tell you you're not alone.
#1 I've let the peanut watch a few too many episodes of doc mcstuffins. Yup. I did it. We've had good days and bad. We've had days where the tv is never on and days where I let her watch it more then once....or twice. But I'm human. And I needed that 20 mins to, I don't know make her dinner. We try to limit her and use Disney jr. in the morning to "wake up" ourselves. But on occasion I use that mouse to have a moments peace. And hey that's ok. She's not watching cops or law and order, she's relaxing her little body for 24 minutes and I'm getting stuff done.
#2 I don't run a restaurant in my house but I have taken special orders. Our little peanut is not a picky eater...yet. But she's testing her limits when it comes to dinner time. Oh boy it's not easy. We sit at the table as a family and we talk about our days, but we sit and sit and sit and sometimes she won't EAT!!! She's little, if you didn't already catch that by me always calling her peanut so when she doesn't eat I freak. Like she'll starve or something. I know she won't, but I hate when she doesn't have a solid dinner. So very rarely we cave and give her the cereal or chicken strips she's asking for.
#3 I've raised my voice. Maybe with the exception of teenagers, no one tests your patience better then toddlers. I try so very very hard not to get mad or frustrated but sometimes I just "need you to leave the bathroom so mommy can pee in peace please." I try to always always apologize to her for this I never her want her to think its ok to talk to someone like that. But it happens and I'm human. Making sure you say you're sorry is key here.
#4 I sometimes need some time off. I love my daughter and I'm so blessed I get to stay home with her. But I gotta tell you some days I want to take a personal day, maybe get my nails done or sit in bed all day and watch Netflix. I know it doesn't mean I love her any less, but I really want to be alone maybe with a good book uninterrupted. Being "on" 24/7 is exhausting, I firmly believe this is why "girls weekends" or "spa days" were truly invented, it was for moms who needed to get away form their kids.
#5 Didn't expect a bouns one now did ya. Now heres where I really turn the tables on you. All of these things make me a good mom. Why? Because I recognize them and I do my best to correct them. Too much t.v = more outdoor and reading time. Demanding toddler food, try googling new toddler friendly recipes or make dinner time fun, but focus on the fact that food is getting in the belly and we are having a family meal every night. I raised my voice, I said sorry. She needs to understand mommy will make mistakes too and as long as I am recognizing when I do that, I am only setting her up for success in the future to know that when she makes a mistake it's ok to admit you were wrong and apologize. Need a mommy vacation, take a little more me time, remember in my mommy guilt post I mentioned taking care of yourself, when I notice my patience wearing thin I know it's probably time I do something for me.
Moral of my story is you are not alone. We are all going though these same things regardless of what your not so great mommy moments are. No parent is perfect! As long as you are trying your hardest, and you are good enough with that being enough, we will raise happy healthily kids. Steve and I are taking a toddler parenting class, (which I plan to discuss more about soon) and we learned last week that in order to raise a successful child a parent only needs to give 30-40%. Crazy right! But it's true, trying your best IS enough and your kiddos know it. So whenever we are having our "not so great" parenting days and I feel like the worlds worst mom, Steve goes "30% babe 30%." So stop hiding behind the victories and discuss your "not so great" moments I'm sure there are plenty of moms and dads out there who are right there with you.
Just my 2 cents
XOXO
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